Crying can mean anything from eyes that glisten to a gentle tear streaking down a cheek to loud wailing. I started having panic attacks and was eventually diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and panic disorder. Sometimes I would take a shower just to go cry and make weird crying sounds. Because we typically cry when we feel safe, the person’s tears can suggest a willingness to enlist the help of others—perhaps the therapist, a spouse, or another trusted ally. Talk about feelings? It took a long-ass time and some therapy for me to cry at all. I’d let it all out in the shower for some reason. But never in front of others. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Cry. Don't worry, you're doing great. Sometimes I'll have to step away while I'm at work so that I can cry a bit. Just got back fron my therapist. Crying is a natural and healthy part of the process. Which is good. Yes! Not so much lately? I've always been a very emotional person, but this crying has gotten bad over the last three years. It kind of annoys me, but I’m trying to unpack a lot of my old feelings about crying being a sign of weakness. As a psychodynamic therapist, I believe that most of the time, emotions are essential on the path to healing. Some people might say this would reinforce your anxiety, but I think if it gets you to the appointments in the first place, then it's good for you! Bring along your sense of humor and your care for fellow travelers on the road to wellbeing :), Press J to jump to the feed. So I just dont talk about them, because I just cant feel comfortable crying in front of others (even my wife). But then my dad passed when I was 28 and my failure to express my grief about that really screwed me over. In this age of assembly-line, protocolized psychotherapy, we always need to remember that it can only happen when clients experience the therapist as sufficiently interested in them as people, and not just a bundle of symptoms to be labeled … Another red flag: crying every time you see someone with a particular problem. If you feel odd about crying in front of your therapist, don't. These days there are a bunch of sensitive areas around my illness and the losses it has caused, that I know are no-go areas if I want to keep the tears away. We are a safe, welcoming community. I can intellectualise that its stupid that I feel so uncomfortable and that its also completely unnecessary because crying is a perfectly reasonable human response to pain and loss. Cry. Makes me feel weak because it seems like I can't control my emotions. Weird, eh? Since my depression got really bad a few years ago, any mention of some aspects relating to that and its game over. I cry often in therapy and when things were really crazy a couple of years ago and therapy was dredging up a lot of buried trauma I would cry all the damn time, got to the point I would just pause whatever I was doing and go somewhere private and let it out. However, although phase-two recuperation is almost always healthy for the system, many clinicians overreact to an adult’s tears. I cry every day, literally. crying is often a sign of healing as well, it can be very therapeutic. I cry when I'm depressed but I also cry when I'm angry/upset. Now at 34 and in better touch with my emotions, I cry so easily. Therapists usually feel more regret about "more intense crying or more frequent tears or tears that are related to their own situation," says Blume-Marcovici. Im nearly 50 now, so all my adult years up to recently, no crying. I feel like it's healthy to be open and vulnerable ... healthy to have a place, a person, where it's OK to let your guard down and be honest about how you feel. The research is mixed. My family get the most of it. Then I got yet another unrequited crush, lost an entire circle of friends and cried every day for several months.
But to answer your question, I have cried in front of therapists before. Sometimes I cry at the drop of a hat... that's when I know something is brewing like a depressive flare. It's worse just after I wake up. After it was like a faucet was opened up and I could cry when I experience flashbacks or sadness. "I can't speak for all of us, but the majority (I think) are pretty comfortable with crying," says one therapist.
But to answer your question, I have cried in front of therapists before. Sometimes I cry at the drop of a hat... that's when I know something is brewing like a depressive flare. It's worse just after I wake up. After it was like a faucet was opened up and I could cry when I experience flashbacks or sadness. "I can't speak for all of us, but the majority (I think) are pretty comfortable with crying," says one therapist.